Growing up with a dysfunctional or abusive parent has long lasting negative impacts on a person’s life.
If you are struggling with your adult life now and had a parent with a personality disorder, substance abuse or other serious condition, you might have some of these symptoms:
- Second guessing everything you do.
- Fearful of personal attacks or criticism (the fear that any modern accuser is automatically right about you).
- Fear of romantic relationships (the fear of being hurt).
- Engaging in recreating past painful relationships with others (picking negative people like your parent(s) for romances or friendships…that almost always end in disappointment and pain).
- Feelings of general and personal anxiety.
- Feeling easily defeated, or as if the world always seems to be against you.
- Bottled up anger that seems to come out too strong at the wrong times (loss of self-control).
- Ruminating endlessly about past hurts with a strong urge to fantasize about how to get justice.
- Feeling no one really hears you, needing to feel heard.
There are other symptoms and signs to be sure, but if you recognize yourself in this list then it is important to get help.
You want to feel better, you want to change your life and let your old self go.
I understand these issues from the inside because I grew up with abusive parents in a dysfunctional family. I know the pain and heart-break that go with it. I learned to live my life with more freedom, higher self-esteem and increased confidence. I learned that I could go after my dreams and make them into reality (a good and meaningful career, a loving wife, a home to call my own).
I would like to help you on your journey from hurt to healing. Together we can find the ways to learn to set boundaries, treat yourself positively and develop the kinds of relationships and life experiences you have always wanted.
There is a path forward. Call me now and we can get started right away.
Bernard Ball, LMSW